Hello, Erich here.
It was one of those nights that many of you, especially parents, might relate to. At 3:30 AM, under the quiet shadow of the night, while my little one, Priscilla, decided sleep was not on her agenda, I found myself reflecting deeply on life’s fleeting nature. Amid these sleepless hours, my thoughts turned into words, and slowly, a poem began to take shape—’The Funeral’.
This poem isn’t just a reflection of my role as a funeral director; it’s woven from the personal encounters and stories that touch my heart daily. Each line and verse came from pondering how every family faces the journey of loss uniquely, and it’s my job—my calling—to understand and honour these individual paths.
The Funeral
Good evening, the waves ebb in and ebb out,
Good evening, respect never in doubt.
Good evening, the waves bid their goodbye,
No eyes are left dry.
Good evening, we shall see you at dawn.
Good morning, she respectfully yawns.
Good morning, the silent walk gives the call,
Good morning, the knell rings from on tall.
As life summons us all.
Good morning, six shoulders take the weight,
To the heavenly gates.
Goodbye now, a chorus of robins calls from their breasts,
Goodbye now, the priest leaves with a bless,
Goodbye now, I shall see no more,
Goodbye now, but my spirit shall soar.
Written by Erich Falconer
In the stillness of that night, as I rocked Priscilla in my arms, each verse brought me closer to the universal truths of grief and renewal. Writing ‘The Funeral’ helped me connect even more deeply with the families I support through Falconers Undertakers. It reinforced my commitment to be there for them, not just in the immediate days of mourning but as they continue to navigate their new normal.
Here in Tramore, I often find solace at Trá.Beo, a wonderful space where the community comes together to practice yoga and mindfulness. It’s not just about the classes; it’s the whole experience that enriches the soul. I particularly enjoy the moments spent sipping coffee there, absorbing the calm atmosphere. Trá.Beo offers a range of services that cater to all, from dynamic yoga sessions to deeply restorative mindfulness practices, each designed to support physical and mental wellness.
Another cornerstone of my personal healing journey has been Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) with Angelica at Waterford CBT. The benefits of CBT—such as managing stress, reshaping negative thought patterns, and developing effective coping strategies—have been invaluable. Angelica’s expertise is a significant asset to our community, and I highly recommend exploring CBT for anyone seeking tools to improve their mental health. Learn more about Angelica’s work and join her waiting list for 2025.
At Falconers, we advocate for an integrated approach to support. Whether finding peace in a yoga class or harnessing the tools provided by CBT, exploring different avenues of support is crucial. We are here to guide you through these options and support your journey.
If you or someone you know needs a hand or someone to talk to as the nights draw in, reach out. We are here to listen, to support, and to help you find your path to healing.
Stay connected, and take care of each other. And for those quiet nights, may you find solace in knowing that the dawn is never too far away.
Warm regards, Erich Falconer
